Shifting from an existing or old situation to a new one calls for movement. When movement fails to occur spontaneously, the required momentum can sometimes be achieved by a firm but encouraging push from behind, a guide who accompanies you for a while as you start to move forward or talking to someone who can help you explore the situation at hand from a perspective other than the one that you have had until now.
Increasing and expanding the options at your disposal for dealing with matters in alternative ways requires courage, curiosity, inspiration and being prepared to not always know exactly what you are doing or where you are heading as you explore. It requires motivation, the willingness to experiment and sometimes that issues previously avoided now be addressed; it calls for matters that may have been hidden or suppressed for a time, to become visible so that they get the attention they demand and deserve.
Working side-by-side with a counsellor and truly being in contact can ease transition. Not only action and moving forward is important, having and taking the time to stop and reflect on things is crucial if the effects of exploration and insights are to be processed and sustained. Trust in and within the working relationship is essential in the light of dealing with matters that can sometimes seem so frightening or nerve-racking that avoidance feels like the most comfortable mechanism. The most comfortable, however frequently not the most effective mechanism.
Being able to accept that you do not have an immediate response and enduring feeling ‘at a loss’ for a while can sometimes have a greater healing effect than the seemingly most brilliant solution.
In times of transition, insights prove their value when they can be translated into action. On the not always smooth and painless route to action, a healthy dose of common sense and humour can go a long way to ease some of the rougher patches.